Relationship Spiral

Why do we seem to prefer to stick to the past?

The relationship is much in common to the previous failures, indiscretions, disagreements, feelings, questions, you name it. The problem is ... is it healthy?

I would guess probably not. Is it perfect? Definitely not, but unfortunately, we are all humans. If relations are perfectly consistent from day to day it would be a bit boring.

However, the constant struggle of the past means that it may, if not from you, can not seem to move on. This could be because it is considered that the feelings are not heard for the first time, or because the problem still exists, but it does not do much good to anyone of you every time you come to this?

So, how do you move on? Well that and ask that an adult and he agreed to put it behind you. If you or your partner is not willing to do that or not ready, then be honest and tell the other person, or let me be honest with you about it, no matter how painful it. Otherwise, it will continue to persevere and endure and that will break your relationship.

If you both agree to move on, honestly, then you should forget and move on, really. If it gets brought up when things need to be addressed. The question to ask - why are so brought up? Both sides agreed that the two of you will move on, so why is it not working? Why not be forgotten and forgiven?

These discussions can happen several times, but must be addressed otherwise it will never be solved, and my bet is that it will happen very often, if we allow that to happen, not solved. Keep it in mind that sometimes things will be brought up for no other reason then that a fight or disagreement desired, or that the person feels upset about something that has to do with you and this is the way to their anger out. We are often the most important judges of themselves and will often cause subjecting the people closest to us our frustration. May it not be about you - even though it may sound like it was aimed directly at you, so do not take it personally. I know, it is much easier to tell you to do, but it would be better for you if you can not take it personally. Again, this is not always the case and listening to what the person is "really", said it is very important.

A good relationship is based on a consistent flow of communication, ie listening, speaking, and most of all be honest with each other. If you can not be honest with your partner and vulnerable with your partner then you are probably not the right comparison. Being in a relationship of love means taking risks because it is completely vulnerable with that person even though you May get injured or have those same things to use against you. This does not mean that I do not like, when used as ammunition that can only mean that you are injured and sadly in his anger at the way this time.

We've all probably done these things to one person or another, but it is very painful when you are in a relationship with someone you love. Honesty is the most important thing was that the communication within a marriage, a long term relationship or a relationship that will see some where some day. Continue to listen to each other, or start, if you have not already done so, and put yourself out there. Life is meant to be a little risky sometimes if you're serious about love then you will be serious about communication. Keep working on your relationship and things will be improved in one way or another. Do not be afraid - go for it.