Valuing People

Single, most important rule of human relations is the value of people as they are. If you are trying to change people to match our idea of ​​the way things should be or if we are treating them as equipment or tools we use to get what we want, we do not want them evaluated. Or, if we are, we think that their value is quite low. They are as unacceptable and must change us molim.Jess Lair has a friend who says he does not bring the kids, you raise a carrot. His idea that a parent is to sponsor a lot of kids like you to sponsor someone in AA. Parents have been through the experience of childhood, and now, even though they know that they are not perfect and still trying to get through life with some reputation for yourself can help guide your child through djetinjstvo.Mi all entitled to our reactions to sponsoring a child, instead of raising a child. I kind of like it. It seems like you're a parent, mentor, facilitator, manager, while raising a child looks more like trying to force the child to fit a standard that parents probably still does not answer. Forcing a child is not evaluating a child. Help your child to see their true value and helps him to use that value to be happy, healthy, productive, and loving someone is bolje.Prisiljavanje be or do anything to alienate them. Parents should think with their children (for reasons I do not use as many people use it, which means that the average or defend, but I use the word as defined: to help them understand). Let them know that working together and everyone could get to a decent place. Tell them you are not perfect, but you're a little further along, and may be able to help them to be happy and not make mistakes otherwise almost certain. Children are not valued by the parents feel abused by roditelja.Kad I was seventeen or eighteen, I can sleep until 9 or 10 AM. I never gave any thought. I just slept until I woke up. One morning just after waking up, I stood on the back porch, squinting into the sun, and my father, who was for 4 hours, but he came and told me: "You could get a lot more accomplished if you want to get up earlier," and then went his way. It probably would not work with everyone. Many teens do not care whether they accomplish anything. But it worked for me. It is important for me to achieve something - probably because my father for example. Father, I value his friendship and his help in my life. The next morning I got up at 6:30, and I achieved something. And I saw how beautiful this morning summer days - one of the simple pleasures života.Nikada alienate anyone. We need to appreciate their spouses, children, employees and bosses. I have said more about the heads of the employees do not like equipment than what I said about not treating their employees as employers gear. Both are important. An employee must not treat the company or his boss as a tool that prints a paycheck every month and covers a larger portion of their medical records - all without too much effort or care by the employee. Employees should appreciate their job and should try to increase its value through rad.Većina people do not like their job because they are not respected head of the company. Employees who feel valued will love their job, will do a better job, will do more work, will work faster, be more excited, will contribute more to be loyal, it will be more creative, to be polite to users. It seems to me to be feeling these days that jobs are hard to find so that employers can take advantage of employees and there is nothing people can do about it. Based on the facts of human psychology and human relations, such thoughts are nothing less than sabotage the company. People do not work well when you have used. Paying employees less than it's worth, provided there is no or little time to rest, and it is expected that employees feel their job is more important than their family or anything else will produce mediocrity at best and will make the company suffer. The leader does not need to tell someone what to do to the value of their employees. He treats others as he wants others to treat him as you would like to be treated if the roles were reverse lookup statistics about how most divorces are due to financial problems and much infidelity in marriage reduces the chances of survival. The best thing for married people should remember is that all divorce and marital problems all caused by a spouse is not evaluating the other. Nobody wants to spend time with someone who does not consider it acceptable, or who thinks of it as a problem in your life. Screaming, criticizing, denigrating, Pouting, and like all manifestations of trying to force someone to change, and all indications are that the partners are not valued. None of this radi.Kada each spouse feels respected by others, they can help correct each other. Hon spouses seek correction of their spouses. They are happy to hear where you can improve. And they were happy to hear where their spouse is considered them just fine, better than fine. But if they do not feel valued, then the marriage is competition, and you do not want to let your opponent any point. Where partners fail to appreciate each other, whatever happens between them was bitter. One of the main reasons for marriage should be to get a better level of synergy. This means that the spouses at the same momčadi.Pronađite what you like about other people. Focus on what you like and what is good, and not the opposite. Provide space for your spouse, child, employee, employer, family, shines, and watch what happens. Then you let into your life to help them move to the next level, just as a leader you want to help them move into better razinu.Weldon Smith is the lead author of True and false forgeries, which explains what True leadership is and why some other ideas about what leadership is not working. Furthermore, leaders are not only those who have followers. Any success in every aspect of life is the result of practicing the right direction.

The Enemy Within

Who is responsible for the unfortunate situation of your most cherished relationships? Why do not receive the same tender loving care to keep giving to another person? Why does not he / she cost you? Why did you only give one pleasure, but never receives the same? Why dysfunctional people always seem to be attracted to you? These are the kinds of questions that bother some individuals to no end. They read every book of the relationship, work, and advice column can get their hands on, hoping to discover their way out of trouble in a state of euphoria that dream when it comes to the partnership.

If you can not find anything in writing that will bring clarity to their relational problems, they are willing to attend conferences, workshops, retreats, and any other event in the hope that a motivational speaker, relationship experts, managers or conference will finally provide them with answers that you are looking for, and in some cases, paid good money. Books, articles and how-to manual in hand, they eagerly back over excited and ready to apply new knowledge, only to discover, things are still the same. Anxiety remains, anxiety is a difficult and suffering attached to every part of your life. If a partner does not respond in the way books, articles, conferences, retreats, workshops, or promised, irritability, confusion starts to creep in. and accident increases. Now for the first laundry list of issues was even more questions added to it. Why is my partner is not responding, why he / she is so stubborn, why would not he / she will change if all these things to improve this relationship? What is wrong with people, and finally, what's wrong with me, or what have I done to deserve this?

When the answers to such questions remain elusive, there is one place where people hate to look like, because consciously or unconsciously fear that there will not be able to handle the answers. They fear the answers will be charged. Yes, there is an opponent who knows a million ways to destroy that relationship. The opponent is far more than any knowledge of the external forces when it comes to figuring out exactly what is needed to disassemble the connection. This can cause the destruction of the likes of which no other man or woman has the power to do. The opponent is so adept at undermining or sabotaging the best efforts to attract, cultivate and maintain a healthy loving relationship because it is the opponent of the "enemy within". This is true in many cases the person who prohibits, restricts, undermining, sabotaging or destroying the relationship was "just". How is this possible?

The inner enemy is a powerful tool that everyone hates to admit. One can spend years fighting against perceived opponents he or she can blame for the problems or destroying relationships. However, given the right set of circumstances and environment, can give birth to The Enemy Within, and it will do far more harm than the perceived opponents were able to, because no one else knows you as the enemy within. He knows the secrets are never shared with another living soul, she knows about the uncertainties that would never speak out loud about, to know those little things you dislike about yourself that you are never shared with anyone, knows that when you "re the most vulnerable State.

So how are the internal enemies look? This is manifested as uncertainty, doubt, fear, confusion, guilt, self-denial, addiction, and any other negative attitude or behavior that allow entry and to control our lives. If the other person in relation to treating you badly, it could be that other person to recognize the enemy within, and decided to use it at will? If so, consider the following: When the person to recognize their uncertainty, they decided that it can be used against you to make you feel subordinate (less than, less, less, less) than when they recognized the fear in you, they decided it was perfect way for you in your place, when they admit guilt in themselves, they decide not to beat over the head with what you know with the beating, if so addictive, they are used as a carrot for the dependence entice you to participate in destructive behavior . But remember, they only felt comfortable in treating you this way, if they recognize these things as a part of yourself and see if they embrace. Do not worry about changing the predator who has decided to use you against you, because once you get rid of the "enemy within" your life will change for the better.

People know who can play with, and once you recognize that you love, you know your value, you are happy with who you are, you are confident in your abilities, you have certain expectations, and yes - they can be high (only to be reasonable), you know you deserve the best when it comes to love, and there are certain things that you will refuse because they are better than that, they will have to comply or leave you alone. If you choose to follow it is because you share your value system, they respect your wishes and all of you and wish the two of you to get the best out of the relationship (the only kind worth having). If you do not want to comply, there will always win, because they only have to make room for people who will value and deserve to be with you. The inner enemy is not prejudiced and we are all susceptible to struggle with it. However, it is your life, even though uncertainty, doubt, confusion, or fear comes to visit every one of us, we have the power to decide whether or not someone gets to use it against us. I say - NO.

Pamela Reaves © February 7, 2012

Pamela Reaves founder and executive director Nella LLC. She is a Certified Professional Coach, with concentrations in coaching and motivational coaching relationship. Pam is a trained coach clients in their aspirations for a healthy, happy and powerful human experience. It is also the author of a thought-provoking and powerful book, "Is it love or just ... Sick Contribution?" "Is It Love ..." published by Tate Publishing and entrepreneurship, and is very well accepted by readers as far away as Africa and Australia. Pam holds a Bachelors of Science Degree in Business Management and has over 30 years of experience and success in different corporate cultures in the area of ​​human resources, labor relations, finance, legal and real estate. Pam has appeared on numerous radio talk shows, participated in numerous radio talk shows, blog and on cable TV talk show. She is also co-host a virtual think tank, and is a prominent author and lecturer on a number of other cultural events, festivals, book fairs.

Intuition and Survival

When I was a junior in high school, a group of my friends had planned to go bowling on Saturday night. I got permission from their parents to go out and loaded into the car. There must have been eight of us packed in there, and I'm sitting at my best friends lap as the car drove away. As we were leaving the campus, the driver of the car looked in the mirror and said: "Lisa, your mom is following us."

"Drive faster." I said, definitely.

"No, she is on foot, and she is catching up. I better stop."

My mother pulled me out of that car, even after I gave permission to go. I was confused and angry. She looked at me and said: "Lisa, I have a bad feeling." Ten minutes later the car crashed into a tree and overturned. My best friend, whose lap I was sitting on, he was dead.

Feeling, and my mother is a super-human sprinting skills to save his life. I know it.

I heard just this morning, the children of women who are just removed from her home after discovering her live in boyfriend had molested one of them. "I had a feeling, but I just do not know why."

I had a feeling before I even met the man in person was almost killed both himself and his son. I listen to that feeling, I just stumbled forward in the relationship, because I could not put my finger on why I felt as I did.

We hear it all the time. "I felt that I should not have to walk that way."

"I had a feeling about this woman."

"I just had this gut feeling before I walked through that door, that I should not."

Sometimes listening to the voice of a little inconvenient. Sometimes it takes a tremendous amount of courage to follow your gut away from danger. Sometimes it just does not make sense to walk away. Most of the time when we follow those increases never know why, but sometimes we later found out we were spared. However, when we do not listen to the above, it is always obvious in hindsight. I should have listened to my stomach.

This is a different animal when you gut feeling leads us to the promised land of inspiration. It feels light and exciting. When a voice shouting "NO" this may be difficult to tell whether you are just reacting to the fear that I need to push or intuition. However, this feeling can save us from traffic jams or accidents. That would save us from the bad days or dangerous relationships. It just might save your life.

Mother's willingness to look ridiculous and confuses me, saved mine.

Lisa Hayes is the author of how to escape from the relationship of Hell. She is the mother of two children, a yoga instructor and hypnotherapist, and internet project manager. Lisa likes long walks on the beach and rest.

Relationship Spiral

Why do we seem to prefer to stick to the past?

The relationship is much in common to the previous failures, indiscretions, disagreements, feelings, questions, you name it. The problem is ... is it healthy?

I would guess probably not. Is it perfect? Definitely not, but unfortunately, we are all humans. If relations are perfectly consistent from day to day it would be a bit boring.

However, the constant struggle of the past means that it may, if not from you, can not seem to move on. This could be because it is considered that the feelings are not heard for the first time, or because the problem still exists, but it does not do much good to anyone of you every time you come to this?

So, how do you move on? Well that and ask that an adult and he agreed to put it behind you. If you or your partner is not willing to do that or not ready, then be honest and tell the other person, or let me be honest with you about it, no matter how painful it. Otherwise, it will continue to persevere and endure and that will break your relationship.

If you both agree to move on, honestly, then you should forget and move on, really. If it gets brought up when things need to be addressed. The question to ask - why are so brought up? Both sides agreed that the two of you will move on, so why is it not working? Why not be forgotten and forgiven?

These discussions can happen several times, but must be addressed otherwise it will never be solved, and my bet is that it will happen very often, if we allow that to happen, not solved. Keep it in mind that sometimes things will be brought up for no other reason then that a fight or disagreement desired, or that the person feels upset about something that has to do with you and this is the way to their anger out. We are often the most important judges of themselves and will often cause subjecting the people closest to us our frustration. May it not be about you - even though it may sound like it was aimed directly at you, so do not take it personally. I know, it is much easier to tell you to do, but it would be better for you if you can not take it personally. Again, this is not always the case and listening to what the person is "really", said it is very important.

A good relationship is based on a consistent flow of communication, ie listening, speaking, and most of all be honest with each other. If you can not be honest with your partner and vulnerable with your partner then you are probably not the right comparison. Being in a relationship of love means taking risks because it is completely vulnerable with that person even though you May get injured or have those same things to use against you. This does not mean that I do not like, when used as ammunition that can only mean that you are injured and sadly in his anger at the way this time.

We've all probably done these things to one person or another, but it is very painful when you are in a relationship with someone you love. Honesty is the most important thing was that the communication within a marriage, a long term relationship or a relationship that will see some where some day. Continue to listen to each other, or start, if you have not already done so, and put yourself out there. Life is meant to be a little risky sometimes if you're serious about love then you will be serious about communication. Keep working on your relationship and things will be improved in one way or another. Do not be afraid - go for it.

Christian Relationship

The Christian attitude will help show you how you can respond to angry people. Difficult relationships are often with people who are angry. It is wise to understand how to respond to anger, so do not get sucked into it and escalate. Here are a few ways you can respond to anger:

The soft answer is often de-turns into rage. Proverbs 15:01 says, "a gentle answer to said anger, but harsh word provokes anger" (NIV). Try lowering your voice, showing interest in their problems, offering sympathy and avoids the defense. When you use your words to alleviate the problem, rather than react in a way that increases anger, sometimes you can calm a person down.

Non-response is sometimes the only way to prevent anger from continuing. This may include leaving the premises, ending a conversation or simply does not fit at all. Some angry people want to be angry and say everything will intensify their anger. If the rager just want to rage, there is no way to win is trying to hire a person with logic or emotion, will only increase the outburst and become upset themselves. Proverbs 26:4 says, "Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you will be like him yourself" (NIV).

A strong response is sometimes necessary. Proverbs 26:5 says: "Answer a fool according to his folly, or it will be wise in his own eyes" (NIV). Some people need to be firm with them by setting boundaries and standing his ground. With these people, the only way to get them to stop throwing your toxic emotions to you is to refuse to tolerate anger. That does not mean that you go into long arguments or defend themselves point by point when people upset, it means that you stand with your country's brief statement supporting the action.

The Christian attitude shows you the help you have a choice about how to respond to angry people. Which you choose depends on the person they are dealing with and the nature of your relationship.

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Stand for Many Things

A promise ring is a wonderful present that can symbolize many things about the person who gives it and the person who receives it, depending on the circumstances. This could mean that the couple be faithful to each other. It could also mean that the service promises to return the carrier after a long journey, such as the hitch in the army. It can symbolize friendship, love, trust, fidelity before marriage or the intent to marry. It is not meant as an engagement ring. This does not necessarily symbolize the intention to marry, unless they got with that in mind.

Men and women can give a promise rings. In fact, women or men can give anyone, including members of the same sex. It may have jewelry or engraving to personalize it, or it may have engraving that states its purpose. To avoid confusion, promise rings usually do not resemble engagement rings. Regardless of the reason for bestowing the ring, it's a good idea to clearly state their meaning in order to prevent misconceptions.

Promise rings are not modern. They have already mentioned as another ancient mythology and religious texts. The promises were sealed with rings for thousands of years. Religious leaders sometimes wear them as a symbol of their oath of his church. The nobles in ancient Italy are famous throwing ring into the Adriatic Sea as a symbol of the nation's relationship with the sea. Promise rings from the 16 and 17 century, which symbolizes love had diamond crystals in them, so the couple can damage your intentions in the glass.

To make sure that the ring purpose is understood, the note is sometimes given together with a promise ring. In this way the intention of giving the ring is clear to both parties. Note should be read together before presenting the ring.

There is no rule about where to wear promise rings. Usually, if a ring symbolizing pre-engagement, it will be worn on the ring finger on his left hand. The third finger is considered that the ring finger, because there are fingers on both sides to protect the ring and the finger is not used as a finger or other fingers. Some people believe that the third finger ring finger because the old idea that the vein of love flowing through the digits.

Whatever the meaning, and no matter where your finger is worn, promise rings symbolize an agreement between two people. This agreement may be in the range of friendships with the intent to marry. In fact, the ring can represent any couple chooses, as long as both understand the full scope of the promise.

Written by Ashley Walker on behalf of the Celtic Royal jewelers. Ashley is focused on urban fashion is always on the lookout for an affordable way.

Residual Feelings

It's over, but something was still nagging at you. You two have decided to go their separate ways, because things just did not work out. Neither one of you could think of any good reason to continue the relationship. However, now that you're apart, you still think about him / her, you still wonder what he / she works at his / her day, yet you are his / her Facebook page to see what is happening in his / her life (his / her status, as once, in a relationship, married), or you lack to him / her under the same roof with you. May the ugly breakup, and as soon as you thought you were separated, only to be entertaining thoughts of "a good deliverance." You believe that once he had his freedom, and will celebrate not respond to him / her, the more need to clean behind him / her, or no longer have to deal with every conversation ended in a quarrel.

But now you are experiencing feelings that are confusing to you. You think you have to be crazy, because all he could think of before he brings closure to the relationship. I can not wait until it was over. However, now you feel like you can not talk to anyone about these conflicting feelings, because they will surely think you are crazy. Did not they recently had to listen to you go on and on about how unhappy you were about? Did not agree with you that the other party was not right for you, do not deserve, or could be the worst thing that ever happened? Not that we encourage you to this disastrous relationship to end? So how do you tell them that you now have a lingering feeling and expect to sympathize with you? How do you explain the fact that we sometimes miss the "worst thing that ever happened to you?" You are unhappy because they feel guilty about these conflicting feelings. You can not let this secret out, because something must be wrong with you (by you). You are sure everyone will think less of you if you mention the word "Miss" in the same sentence with someone you've ended the relationship. Well, there's an explanation and you can stop feeling like you're crazy. By the way, you have plenty of company, and just like you, they are not about to anyone about their struggles with the feelings of the rest.

The relationship (good or bad) eventually becomes part of us. What becomes of us are not always easy to dismiss the exact moment we can say that it's over. Do not be penalized because of conflicting feelings, you might feel. We all know that can not necessarily control our thoughts. We can not always help how you feel. But what we have control over the situation in most of what we do - that we take action. So, just because they are struggling with a sense of lack of another person, do not beat yourself up. However, this does not mean that they should invite him / her and take measures to get together. Those who are given these feelings will tell you that as soon as the meeting ended, they were left with a feeling of regret, blank, or a disappointment given the need to join mr. / Ms. Wrong, if only for a moment. Maybe you'll miss him / her because he / she is part of your life for whatever length of time you two were together. There was some interaction, and as a result of this interaction some bonds are formed. Connection, connection, union, there is some kind of attachment, and that is what is missing. So, when these feelings are missing him / her excited, do not be hasty and act on them. Believe it or not, your inaction is not going to kill you. If you are still struggling with a sexual attraction towards him / her, do not forget that sex is not interchangeable with love. So, if you act on sexual attraction, when the act is over, you'll still be left with feelings, memories, and the incidence of which led to the collapse in the first place.

You'll be overwhelmed with a feeling disappointed in yourself wondering how you can put yourself in that position with the same man / woman with whom you argue ferociously, the same man / woman accused worst thing that ever happened, the same man / woman you can not wait for the removal of your life. At some point, sex is not fulfilled, because sex is not necessarily the love-making. Sex can occur without a gram of sense. This can only be the work without any emotions, concerns, or her account is attached. So, if you become confused and believe that yet another tryst with him / her feel better, solve problems which were responsible for the collapse, or to satisfy their feelings of longing and / or loneliness, it is better to be prepared for temporary satisfaction. You can not get mad with him / her because you decided where you ended up having sex when you're expecting love-making or vice versa. It is up to you to be clear about what is expected as a result of your decision. If you are just going along for the sexual pleasure, this is probably what you'll get - nothing more. If you are anticipating the love-making that will result in reconciliation, you must be clear in order to give the other side a chance that the same decision that you want available to you. If you do not believe their reasons, and then stay away until you believe one or the other. We must be willing to be accountable for what our decisions. It makes everything a lot easier to fight when you're honest with yourself.

Here is how you can submit a struggle with the residual feelings. Recognize them, but do not give confidence (authority, weight, confidence) for them. Focus on the word "rest." This means that the remaining left over, etc., and you deserve better than that. When you decided it was time to move on, you want to live again and not only coexist with each other, you want to be in love with him / her and to love him / her - not only tolerates him / her and can not tolerate it / her, it was because they were ready to heal, as you would like a new beginning, a chance to matter, fulfilling, enjoyable, and passionate relationship. Thus, when the rest of feelings and begin to creep you uncomfortable, remember they are - the rest, residue, scraps, etc. With this knowledge, the fight should be all the easier. Eventually, there will be a struggle. Your patience, persistence and a refusal to act on the residual feelings of the reasons why you win.

Pamela Reaves © February 9, 2012

Pamela Reaves founder and executive director Nella LLC. She is a Certified Professional Coach, with concentrations in coaching and motivational coaching relationship. Pam is a trained coach clients in their aspirations for a healthy, happy and powerful human experience. It is also the author of a thought-provoking and powerful book, "Is it love or just ... Sick Contribution?" "Is It Love ..." published by Tate Publishing and entrepreneurship, and is very well accepted by readers as far away as Africa and Australia. Pam holds a Bachelors of Science Degree in Business Management and has over 30 years of experience and success in different corporate cultures in the area of ​​human resources, labor relations, finance, legal and real estate. Pam has appeared on numerous radio talk shows, participated in numerous radio talk shows, blog and on cable TV talk show. She is also co-host a virtual think tank, and is a prominent author and lecturer on a number of other cultural events, festivals, book fairs.